A Study in eroticism: NTR & Voyeurism
Every once in a while I get curious about things I don't understand.
You may remember my previous attempt at understanding Eroticism, here, where I attempt to look into the mind of the Female Protagonist.
While everyone here has their own kinks, I try my best to not focus solely on my own. After all, the game isn't about me.
I learned a lot from my dive into the female brain housing group - about how they deduce decisions and ultimately break down their own barriers to sex. So, I figured I would look into NTR and voyeurism. Two separate kinks that I didn't really care much for, but are usually grouped together.
NTR (Netorare) : The Japanese term for cheating or being unfaithful. Seems pretty straight forward but the people I spoke to had a little more nuanced approach. Is it just the act of cheating? Some might argue it's not.
"It's less about the act and more about 1. Risk, 2. Guilt, or 3. Pain."
From the perspective of the cheater, the first two may apply the most. You interview as many people as you want here, and most will tell you risk is sexy - in terms of location (your boss's desk, the back seat of a car, somewhere in public) or even in terms of the situation, like what is at stake (in this case, your relationship/marriage). The risk associated with it is generally the first wow factor, but what happens afterward is a little less solid in terms of a unified response.
Guilt is felt by the cheater, but can be displayed in various methods. A guilty person may have trouble sleeping, may act funny around their spouse, or in the case of many NTR doujin, may actually be a fucking maniac that loves the feeling of guilt and the possibility of causing pain. Is it associated with sadism or narcissism? This I never quite found out, because you can't really ask someone "Are you a narcissist". That, and I'm no psychologist.
The most interesting response that I received what about Pain. No, not causing pain. Receiving it. I didn't quite understand, so I asked the person to elaborate on how pain could be perceived as sexual. This is what I was told, in the form of a story:
"Imagine this. You and your girlfriend decide to have a threesome. Two guys, one girl."
"OK"
"She tells you that she loves you, and she is only willing to experiment with it. You guys have been together a long time and you trust her. She says she would do two girls for you, too. Also, if you didn't want to do it, or got cold feet, she would understand."
Anyway, the idea of bringing a stranger into the bedroom sounds dangerous, so you both agree on someone that is known by both of you - but not necessarily a friend of either.
You meet up at a bar and have a few drinks to get loose. You can tell where this is going."
"Right"
"Back in the room, you and the other guy are sharing your girlfriend for the moment. Doesn't seem horrible - you are both there - but, you are not really feeling it. Maybe it's awkward, or maybe you are feeling emasculated by the other man.
Anyway, your girl is being spit roasted when you decide that this just isn't what you want. So, you say 'Sorry, this isn't working out', and you leave the room.
You expect to see your girl leave right after you. After a few moments, you realize she hasn't.
Taking a few steps back to the room, you can hear that they are nowhere close to stopping - as a matter of fact, the sounds are more desperate and heavy. It's at this point, you know she is happier where she is now that you are out. You were just in the way.
Simultaneously while feeling the excruciating pain of feeling "consensually betrayed", you are listening /watching someone you love in a wild sexual experience that doesn't involve you (which, now is starting to sound kind of like voyeurism). Your sexual feelings still need to be dealt with, but it's partnered with Pain."
Frankly, I hated this story. Largely because the way it was told made me feel pain for the person in the story. But now I understood sexualized pain. I was given another example: a visual novel created by someone named NTRMan (lol). It involved a boy and his mom going camping. The boy brings a friend along. Each night, the Mother, in a painfully obvious fashion, sends her son away so that she can bang the friend. Every night, he almost catches them in the act - but her lies (as she is being plowed) is believed by the naive youngster.
So, this has a lot to do with "watching" (voyeurism) and "Pain or Guilt" (NTR), and what i assume to be shame also.
This prompted me to understand Cuckoldry. This is essentially very similar, but involves a man having another man take over his wife, or a wife cuckolding her husband by being unfaithful. In some cases, this is also consensual, as a guy could willingly want to watch his loved one get plowed.
Here's the thing: you can't write about (or implement something into a game) if you don't understand it. I want to create a situation that involves some of these aspects. While this will not happen in chapter one, maybe it will happen in chapter 2.
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Heavy Hearts [18+] Adult RPG
An NSFW Action RPG
Status | In development |
Author | dammitbird |
Genre | Role Playing, Visual Novel |
Tags | Adult, Erotic, Female Protagonist, Furry, Hentai, Monster Girls, NSFW, Pixel Art |
Languages | English |
Accessibility | Subtitles |
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Hopefully this will be a toggle feature, many people dislike this kink (Including myself). Any from what I read many will dip out, this seems like such a nice game and I don't want to leave it on a door step.
You should definitely do it! To me it always makes these FICTIONAL games and stories more interesting. The drama and emotions those situations cause in stories makes them way more interesting to me. The internet is literally a treasure trove of content of which you can see pretty much any type of fantasy you want, so just like these people dont understand ntr, I dont understand why just plain old regular sex is all that interesting to them. Im not really into humiliation or cuckoldry but cheating is very interesting to me because it causes alot of emotions, drama, and present/future problems which makes for an interesting story. Obviously some people dont agree but I think you should do whatever you think will make your game and story better. But thats it from me. Best Regards!
that's interesting. those are probably my two least favorite kinks. and most women i've spoken with don't care for those tropes, either 🤔 the most common ones have been non-con/dub-con, power imbalance (student/teacher, boss/secretary), pegging, and mlm 🤷🏻♀️ i do appreciate the willingness to branch out, though!
Oooh, ill read into those next
Interesting! Although I would dip out if you go that route but I respect the introspection and research.
Same; almost every other game seems to have it, so it is nice to find one that does not. Until now. It is very much not for me, but I appreciate the willingness to try new things.
Also, the major difference between NTR and regular cuckoldry is consent. There is no consent, and often no knowledge on the part of the one being cheated on in the case of NTR. Whereas in cuckoldry, the other person is actively aware and is ok with it. To that end, cuckoldry isn't really cheating.
I've got to agree. I mean, props to the creator for learning kinks before implementing them, but personally NTR is too much for me. If/when it's added is when I'll be dropping out.